To all the POLP out there……

Its a new year, and for some of us its the same old, same old to others like us  POLP its time to gear as we take everyday as it comes ( as we always do!!!)

The past year has been really challenging for some of us, and we also spare a thought for the parents who’s precious little ones have passed away.

I  pray that this will be a year of proserity for us, and I pray that God will take us to new hights, its amazing to see how many blogs there are, im sure that we have made a positive impact on others and I know that the awarness will grow!!!!

So I leave you with some pictures of Leah seeing in  “2009” and yes ….she  stayed up till midnight the little party animal!!!



hey not on the new hair cut !!!!

The Art of Sibling Rivalry

I decided to repost a golden oldie from 2008…. its 2011 and we still at it!!!

It is common amongst the human species to nurture more than one young little human, common numbers of little ones in the family seem to drift around 2-3 in total (there are sometimes more!!!) sometimes the spacing gap between the birth of these little humans never seem to go as planed because like in the wild, there comes a time when the little humans don’t seem to get along….. they become irritated with each other, they act out in various ways …… as is the case of the Kay household….. so todays on Sibling Geographic we will observe the little sibling learning the art of attack and scream…… we will see that size is no issue when it comes to wanting your way or just wanting to tease the living daylights out of your older sister just because you can….

In this image we observe the older and younger sibling playing together in what seems to be a peaceful play station event…


The younger sibling soon realized that the older sibling did not connect her control to the game console, she now feels cheated and is clearly upset as we can see in the image below… this frustration is displayed by an event known as screaming.


In this next image, we can clearly see that the young sibling is devising a plan of action to avenge not being “plugged into the game”


The older sibling feels the need to firmly tell the younger sibling to “go away”….. but this is not to be…


“The attack”


This coordinated attack took place while the younger siblings back was turned, little smacks to the head and hair pulling was used to display the younger siblings dissatisfaction.


At this point the Mother of the young put down the camera and separated the rivalry, and negotiated a “Plug In” The satisfaction of the negotiations are clearly evident below


Please note that no siblings were hurt during the confrontation and life carried on as usual in the Kay household

Feeling a bit helpless…..

We have not had a very good week…….

I had a very bad case of laryngitis and have been voiceless for four days, this morning was the first time since Monday I managed to make some sound. Leah is also not well she has a bad case of flu which has blocked her nose and because of that her ears are infected, she screams of pain and to top things off her breathing patterns have changed…. she has moment were she just stops breathing for a few moments when she is asleep… and those few moments just send me into a panic!!!!

So its been a bit rough in the Kay household, and I will be seeing the pediatrician on Tuesday about the breathing.

mummy and leah

Im Just Little Not Deaf………..

Table Mountain

So my last (What does the future hold) post has sparked a bit of unhappy reaction by my South African friends that are reading my blog. I have been accused of wanting to run away!!!!! And that I’m not making the best of things in South Africa, both my husband and I have jobs; we own a home and a car, blah, blah, blah why would you want to leave and start over…. I understand their arguments, but let me explain to you were I am coming from.


I did not say I am definitely leaving I said I am “considering” leaving, and if I do decide to leave it will not be for my benefit but to my children’s… education and future opportunities, and especially for Leah. Thing are not fair and equal in South Africa here are a few example for you….

Leah is due to have a CT scan and if I do this privately it’s going to cost R4000.00, so we try the Government Hospital do you think they were willing to help? NO… they say, “ because you and your husband are employed and earning a fixed income you have to be billed” How much I ask? R3800.00???????? Can I pay it off over 6 months? “ No 3 months” How do they determine what I can and can’t afford??? You look like you can afford it?? My Gosh I’m still trying to recover from Leah’s birth bill.

Lets get one thing clear, I’m not looking for hand outs or wanting free treatment but try to accommodate me…At least look at my monthly expenses and see that I am telling the truth when I say I cant afford the whole amount upfront, but I can pay the whole amount in monthly installments… but I guess that’s not good enough. I don’t want to go on about our health care situation in this country, but people lie about their status, and they get free treatment or huge reductions on the treatment bill, so why don’t I do the same and just lie and abuse the system, you see I’m not like that and if I do… it makes things tough for the people that really needs the medical help its because of those people that abuse our health system that Leah has to suffer, but nothing is being done to stop the abuse and nobody is checking to see who these people are.

Example 2. I found a support group called Little People of South Africa, I sent them an e-mail, I called I got my hopes up thinking I have found support at home, but I am still waiting for a reply and no one answers my calls so……….. Is that what you define as support? I get more pleasure and support from the people I met through Knoahs Blog and the friends who comment on Leahs blog, I define that as support even more so I define them as friends who share in each others pain and joy.

Lets touch on crime in South Africa, its sad that I cant allow my girls to play alone in front of their own home without adult supervision, because they might get snatched, its nothing new kids go missing in South Africa EVERYDAY its become so common that the media does not report every case because there are so many missing kids!!!! We received a letter from Nicole and Simone’s school warning the parents to be punctual when the pick their kids up at the end of the school day, as a little girl was almost snatched in front of the school gates luckily, she screamed and someone came to her aid, the man who tried to snatch her managed to get away, so he is still out there. My little girl attend this school, its all just becoming to close for comfort, lets not talk about the night the cops came shooting down the road we live in, pleading with the residents to lock all door and windows, because six men had just robbed a fast food store and hijacked a car, and these armed thieves decided to run down our street and hide in the surrounding properties, poor Simone was so freaked out the next day she was to afraid to go into the backyard because she was convinced one of the robbers were in the yard. My brother is a jogging enthusiast, there is nothing as awesome as taking an early morning jog on the Table mountain path ways, breathing in the fresh air and taking in the splendid views, but you know what, he cant do that on his own he now has to go in a group or jog where its fairly busy because Yes…. they are robbing the joggers and hikers and old people that go for their daily walks on the mountain, they sit in the bushes pounce on you and beat you up and take what they can!!!!!! How Sick

And Last but not Least, and the most important, Leah’s acceptance into society, there is a huge problem with the acceptance of people with disabilities in South Africa, I want her to be all that she can be I want her to reach her full potential , its funny people seem to think that if you are physically different in appearance, there has to be a mental problem as well, some of my friends speak to Leah and shout at her as if she is hearing impaired? Some of my so called friends has not been to visit since her birth …. I cant wait for the day when she can say  “ Will you be quiet  I’m just little not deaf” What a splendid day that will be, but for now I will say it for her. Im sure any mother would do the same.

A picture says a thousand words


One SONG can spark a moment
One FLOWER can wake the dream
One TREE can start a forest
One BIRD can herald spring
One SMILE begins a friendship
One HANDCLASP lifts a soul
One STAR can guide a ship at sea
One WORD can frame the goal
One VOTE can change a nation
One SUNBEAM lights a room
One CANDLE wipes out darkness
One LAUGH will conquer gloom
One STEP must start each journey
One WORD must start a prayer
One HOPE will raise our spirits
One TOUCH can show you care
One VOICE can speak with wisdom
One HEART can know what is true
One LIFE can make a difference.

W. Michael Frye


Momma’s Boy

Artist: W. Michael Frye

author: Unknown